Thoughts on Deployment #2

by Koko on May 9, 2014 · 6 comments

in Army, Deployment, Q, Uncategorized

Man, I miss this guy. I miss him so much that it makes my stomach hurt and my eyes tear up just thinking about him.


Deployments are just hard. The day after Q deployed this time, I called my mom crying and I said, “No other job in the world takes your husband away for 4 months like this. It is SO unfair.” But I just had to deal with it. And I did and I have. And it still stinks, but I am managing it all: this house, my Masters, my job, Carl… and the list continues.


Every night before bed I count the number of remaining nights that I am alone. It started out a big number and has dwindled to a very reasonable number. And it’s how I deal with it all. I think, OK THIS long until he is back.This many more weekends alone. This many dinners alone. This many fun events I go solo to.

This past weekend, there was a Ranger Ball. All the wives dressed up and the guys were in their dress uniforms and it was such a fun night. My sweet, sweet girlfriend told me there was no way she was going without me as her third wheel. And my heart melted. The thoughtfulness and generosity and kindness of our friends is so heartwarming. And I went and I had a blast, but of course the whole time I was thinking about how much Q would have enjoyed it.

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There is no harder job than being a military wife. I truly believe this. We are a force to be reckoned with. Ask another woman if they would give up their jobs every three years to move to a town (and not a fancy big town, think San Antonio or Columbus, GA) where they know no one and where their husbands will work from 6AM to 7PM most days and then they will leave for anywhere from 4 months to a year and let you keep up the house and raise the kids on your own.  And it doesn’t stop for the next 20 + years. It’s an unbelievable role. Today is Military Spouse Appreciation Day. And boy, I appreciate these women I call my friends, because there is no one like us in the world. Strong, brave, solid women. And I am SO proud to be one, even when it hurts sometimes.


And if you want a fabulous new blog to read: Stephanie is an inspiration and a mentor figure for me. A wonderful mother and fellow military spouse. 

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Megan June 2, 2014 at 3:02 pm

You are awesome girl. It makes the 72s that I have to deal with seem like nothing. 😉
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Steph M. May 17, 2014 at 3:21 pm

This post brought tears to my eyes. My husband got out of the Navy shortly into when we started dating, so I wasn’t with him during his two deployments, but we did do a year long distance while he moved home to Wisconsin and I finished a Masters program in Virginia. It was incredibly difficult to be apart for so long, and I often thought of the men and women who do this but in a deployment scenario. My countdown marker was Sushi Thursdays. Every Thursday friends and I would go out for sushi and I would come with my countdown of “only ___ more sushi nights!” I admire your strength and outlook on being a military spouse!!!

Marissa May 13, 2014 at 2:27 pm

I met my husband years after his time in active duty. I never dealt with being apart from him for months or a year…and never faced the loneliness or the worry that comes with a deployment. You are such a hero! Being a military spouse is the hardest job. Thank you to you and your husband for ALL your service! You are appreciated!!!!

Jessica May 12, 2014 at 9:59 am

What a touching post… you have to be a strong woman to do what you do as a military significant other. Thank you to Q for all that he does. And a big thank you to you for being an amazing support system to him!

Stephanie Howell May 9, 2014 at 3:53 pm

Love and adore you, Koko girl. I knew when I first “met” you that you were going to rock the army wife thing…and oh have you ever. I am so proud of you. xoxo

Tonya Abregana May 9, 2014 at 1:50 pm

Well said, Koko.

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