Deployment Take 2

by Koko on January 30, 2014 · 15 comments

in Army, Deployment


So I’ve been hinting at it and I’ve known it was coming for a while, and now it is here: deployment number two. Q left last week.

Each deployment has its own “thing.” The last one was hard because it was a year-long and Q and I were out of contact for weeks at a time. I still lived at home and had no military-friend support, although lots of friends to help me through it. I still grew up quite a bit and learned what it meant to be truly independent.

This deployment, I’m living on the military base. We have Carl. I have a Masters and student-teaching keeping me very busy. Yet, we are buying a house, and again, I have to learn to grow up and be independent.

I have to make decisions that I normally defer to Q on (which alarm company to go with, what fence to put up, which movers to use).

I have to make sure our house closes on time.

I have to pack and move our current house and unpack and set up our new house.

I have to live in a new house all by myself and figure out how it works.

I have to introduce myself to neighbors and make new friends, alone.

I have to start paying our bills again.

I have to make my own coffee in the morning and cook only for one at night.

And through all that, I don’t have my best friend around. And that stinks. I hate that he missed Carl’s first days in the snow, and the snow days in general! I hate that he will likely miss my graduation, and the day we will get the keys to our new house, but we have learned that although he misses some, there are many more memories he WILL be here for.

But we talked before he left about how it was a lot on me, but he knew I could handle it. And that he had no doubt that Carl and I would be just fine and totally kick this deployment’s butt. And I know he is going to do the same. This is a deployment that he has been looking forward to, and one that he is going to do such a phenomenal job at. And we couldn’t be prouder or more supportive of that. So with that, my motto of 2014 has been, “Bring It” and I mean it. Let’s do this.


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by Koko on January 6, 2014

in Army, Deployment, Me

2013 was fabulous. And I truly think 2014 is going to be great.


For starters, I am finishing up my master’s in education this May. The next few months are intense, super intense. I co-teach everyday at a great school on Fort Benning. I’m paired with a second grade teacher now and each week she slowly hands off more and more lessons to me. In March, I move over to a 4th grade class and do the same thing. Each day after co-teaching, I get home and have about 2 hours to prep and cook dinner and finish any school work before going into class from 8PM-11PM. And I do this every weekday. It’s a major bummer because Q usually gets home at 6:30-7 and we spend all of 45 minutes together before I head off to class. But it is all worth it… and I’m halfway there. I’ll be certified in May and hope to have a full time job in the fall!


2014 is also going to bring a deployment our way. There isn’t a whole lot I can say about it, except it stinks. I have been so lucky and used to having Q around these past 2 years that it is going to be a rough adjustment having him gone. And we have both decided that he is probably going to miss Carl more than me and I’m ok with that (hey, you know I would be the same way).


We may buy a house. What???!? I know! Let’s just say we watch far too much HGTV to be stuck in a rental. And there are some amazing historical homes in the local area that we are looking at. Does it suck that I may have to move and set up a home without Q? Sure. Am I SO excited to actually own something of our own? Yes! It’s all so up in the air right now, but it is definitely a goal of ours this year.


So ya, it’s another BIG year for the Bahler house. With all things Army, our plans may change on a dime, so we keep ourselves flexible and hope for the best. Bring it 2014!

All these fun photos were taken during our New Years trip up to Santa Barbara. 

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One Year

by Koko on April 1, 2013 · 12 comments

in Alaska, Army, Deployment


This week marks the one anniversary of when Q returned from Afghanistan.

I remember the excitement and nerves I felt that week leading up to Q’s arrival stateside. His date kept moving…and moving…and moving. I changed my plane ticket 4 separate times and packed my suitcase two weeks in advance.

The night before Q arrived, a wife of a friend of Q’s let me stay with her. A lady I had never met before picked me up from the airport (at 12:00AM!) and took me in. And today, she is one of my closest friends.

Originally I wasn’t going to meet Q off the plane, I was going to arrive the next day. But changing my flight so I could see him was the best decision I’ve ever made (minus saying YES obviously). The moment that I saw Q and he saw me (well to his credit, he saw me first, and I was looking into a sea of soldiers looking for Q), was one  I will never forget. True bliss.


One year ago, I signed a lease for an apartment that Q and I found on the internet and one that would be the first real place we lived in together as a couple. Q would sleep on a mattress on the ground for 4 months until I committed to the move and came up here permanently. And in 3 weeks the movers come and pack up our combined things and move us out of that apartment and onto our next adventure – the one that comes after the vows we are taking in 12 days.


Q and I were talking today about how quickly this past year has gone by and how to him a year in Afghanistan felt like a decade. This past year together, without a deployment, living in the same place has been incredible. And who knows what the next year will bring us. Likely a deployment, lots of late nights training (Q) and papers (K), making new friends and setting up a new home in a new place. But if it is anything like the last year then I can’t wait.


*For all my posts about Q’s deployment, here is where they are. 

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Deployment: 10 Months In

by Koko on March 3, 2012 · 5 comments

in Army, Deployment

It’s almost over. It’s close to the end. We’ve almost made it. 10 long months down.

A lot of military wives and girlfriends say the last couple months are the hardest. There’s the excitement about their return mixed with nerves. I’m anxious. I’m impatient. I lost my “it’s ok, he’ll be home soon” mindset and it’s turned into “get home now” instead.

I’m sick of delayed phone calls. Of sleeping alone. Of petty fights over nothing. Of not being together. Of not holding someone’s hand. Of going to events and weddings and parties alone. Of not having someone to share a bottle of wine with. I’m tired of being apart.

I’m excited to see Q. To spend a Saturday night curled up on the sofa watching a movie together. To cook dinner. To sleep in late and eat breakfast in bed. To find the joy in going to Bed, Bath and Beyond on a Sunday. To eat ice cream even when it’s -10 degrees out. To play in the snow. To run together. To laugh at all of our favorite shows. I just want him back.

I’m  counting down the days.

For more about me dealing with Q’s deployment, you can visit The Deployment page here.

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