He’s Home

by Koko on May 19, 2014 · 5 comments

in Army, Deployment


Yesterday, after 4 months deployed to Afghanistan, Q came home. It turned out that he was going to arrive in Georgia the same day I was supposed to fly home from LA after graduation. Of course, this caused me SO much anxiety about changing flights, getting to Q on time and working out the logistics of getting us both home. But, in the end, it all went so smoothly and we both arrived within hours of each other and reunited at the airport.

There is no better feeling than being hugged and kissed by your husband after months apart. Complete joy. Although, I think Q’s complete joy moment was when we picked up Carl from boarding and they shared their own hugs and kisses.


We are SO happy to be together and Q can finally see his new house (he had never seen it with all of our things in it). Today we shared breakfast on the patio and Carl and I showed Q around our sweet neighborhood. I can’t believe it is over and we are together. There is no better feeling in the world.


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Man, I miss this guy. I miss him so much that it makes my stomach hurt and my eyes tear up just thinking about him.


Deployments are just hard. The day after Q deployed this time, I called my mom crying and I said, “No other job in the world takes your husband away for 4 months like this. It is SO unfair.” But I just had to deal with it. And I did and I have. And it still stinks, but I am managing it all: this house, my Masters, my job, Carl… and the list continues.


Every night before bed I count the number of remaining nights that I am alone. It started out a big number and has dwindled to a very reasonable number. And it’s how I deal with it all. I think, OK THIS long until he is back.This many more weekends alone. This many dinners alone. This many fun events I go solo to.

This past weekend, there was a Ranger Ball. All the wives dressed up and the guys were in their dress uniforms and it was such a fun night. My sweet, sweet girlfriend told me there was no way she was going without me as her third wheel. And my heart melted. The thoughtfulness and generosity and kindness of our friends is so heartwarming. And I went and I had a blast, but of course the whole time I was thinking about how much Q would have enjoyed it.

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There is no harder job than being a military wife. I truly believe this. We are a force to be reckoned with. Ask another woman if they would give up their jobs every three years to move to a town (and not a fancy big town, think San Antonio or Columbus, GA) where they know no one and where their husbands will work from 6AM to 7PM most days and then they will leave for anywhere from 4 months to a year and let you keep up the house and raise the kids on your own.  And it doesn’t stop for the next 20 + years. It’s an unbelievable role. Today is Military Spouse Appreciation Day. And boy, I appreciate these women I call my friends, because there is no one like us in the world. Strong, brave, solid women. And I am SO proud to be one, even when it hurts sometimes.


And if you want a fabulous new blog to read: Stephanie is an inspiration and a mentor figure for me. A wonderful mother and fellow military spouse. 

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by Koko on April 29, 2014 · 1 comment

in Cooking, Deployment, Q


It’s odd the things you miss when your loved one is away. Of course I miss the usuals: date nights, eating dinner with someone, having someone to talk to (rant to), and see movies with. But I really miss eating breakfast with Q.


There is something so easy and magical about our weekend breakfast routine. Q heads off to the espresso machine (which is still packed since he doesn’t trust me to use it without him) and I hit the stovetop for eggs, bacon and toast.


We have this balance in the kitchen and our timing is usually right on.


We take our time eating and drinking our coffee and when the weather is nice out, eat outside with Carl giving us the eye from our feet.


I am SO looking forward to these breakfasts. And so much more. Counting the days.


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The Little Things

by Koko on February 10, 2014 · 3 comments

in Deployment


Every deployment has its own “thing.”

This deployment is difficult in an entirely different way than the last one. Of course the distance and lack of communication is hard, but more than anything it is the little things.

I miss our weekend morning routine- K making breakfast while Q makes us fancy espresso drinks.

I miss cooking dinner for two, I really do.

I miss being inventive in the kitchen and having my taste tester give me a seal of approval.

I miss walking Carl together and snuggling on the sofa as a family.

I miss going to Lowe’s on the weekends (did I really just say that?).

I miss the “I’m coming home from work” phone call when we recap our days.

I miss having someone to go on date nights with and someone who wants to just sit on the sofa with me on a Friday night catching up on our TiVo and drinking wine.

It’s so interesting how much of a routine two people create together. How when one of the two is gone, sometimes the world seems out of whack for a while.

So while Q is gone, I’m trying to get into my own routine (gym after work and on Saturday mornings, going to sleep at a decent hour, etc.). And that helps, as does seeing friends for meals and randomly buying something for myself because I feel sad (someone should seriously shut down my J. Crew card). But I’ll tell ya, nothing is the same as having your partner in crime back. And I cannot wait to have mine back because watching the Olympics in pajamas and eating girl scout cookies alone is not nearly as fun as it seems!

PS whenever Q is gone, I am always so grateful to our friends and family who provide me with never-ending love and support. Thank you for thinking of us! 


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